Kissing with Your Eyes Open
I can just tell. The kiss seems different.
I peek, and I am met with the blurry closeness of his eyes staring into mine.
“Why are your eyes open?”
“To see if you’re looking.” His response comes through a grin and another kiss.
I don’t know when it started, but now it’s a pattern we can’t break. It’s the silly “us,” having fun and being comfortable in our relationship.
Sometimes our playful side frustrates me because I feel like we are not experiencing all the feeling and emotion we could if we would just close our eyes. Our silliness is not the more I want—the romance, passion, and fire.
It feels as if we are missing out.
There isn’t a written rule anywhere about how to kiss. A kiss is a kiss—a way to connect and express affection—whether your eyes are open or closed. (Except in novels, where every kiss is extraordinary and leaves the heroine breathless.)
My “fear of missing out on more” mentality focuses on things out of my reach—things that may only exist in fictional worlds. But here’s the irony: if I spend too much time focusing on those things instead of the blessings that are right in front of me, that’s when I will actually miss out.
I have found myself susceptible to this “fear of missing out on more” mentality in other areas of my life. This mentality is most evident in the harmful yet tempting thought pattern that someone has the perfect marriage or perfect family because of the pictures they post on social media.
No one wins in the comparison game that focuses on what we think others have. That game shifts our focus away from what we have to what we think we should have.
My focus needs to be on the meaningful moments right in front of me—with my silly open-eyed kisser. Our goofy kisses, in the midst of our ordinary life, create happiness and satisfaction between the extraordinary moments we choose to photograph and share on our social media accounts.
I hope you will join me today in studying the faces of those around us a little closer—and maybe even with our eyes wide open.
